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DIVORCE WITH CHILDREN:
If you have children and are planning or going through a divorce, here are some thoughts and some questions that parents should ask themselves. (These are not about whether to divorce or not, but are about planning). |
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This is so important that even though it states the obvious, it must be included:
Have you considered how the divorce will impact the children? |
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Have you and the other parent sat down together and told your child(ren) you are getting a divorce?
If you have not yet done this, have you and the other parent (co-parent) discussed how you, together, will tell them? |
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This is perhaps not so obvious: Have you considered how the story of a divorce will become the story of a child as he or she becomes an adult? |
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You must think ahead and guard against this: Will your behavior make it harder for you to attend your child's graduation or wedding? |
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As a general reminder, are there parts of your behavior that you will regret? |
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We all must understand that even after a marriage is over we are responsible for our children forever. |
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Will your emotional pain prevent you from caring for your children? What steps have you take to cope? |
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How a child was told about the parties divorcing will be something he or she will remember the rest of his or her life. |
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